Monday, June 1, 2015

Going Back and Moving Forward

Time and space are two interesting concepts.  I try not to bog myself down into them too much because Stephen Hawking, I'm not. But over the last few days, they have been in the forefront of my mind.

Both boys are home.  I love having them home but I think I'm enjoying it more than they are. We are re-acquainting ourselves with the spaces we share. Remembering to respect each others' boundaries and remembering that we stay even after they leave...this remains our home if/when/should they move out. And trying to give them space and privacy because they aren't twelve anymore...regardless of what the occasional bickering might make one think otherwise - who's turn is it to clean the bathroom? Cause their mother isn't cleaning up after them anymore. It's going to be an interesting summer.

Speaking of homes...I have noticed something since we've become semi empty nesters.  My house is now WAY too big.  It was great when the boys were home all the time and their friends were in and out with them. But when it's just Car Guy and me rattling around, it's huge. Downsizing may be in our future.  But there are be so many possibilities in our future that have yet to resolve themselves.  Time will tell.

Another thing that has time kicking about in my head is getting back in touch with a dear friend from my past. She was one of my college roommates. We lived together for 2 years and were always really close.  Then I got married and pregnant years before she did and we lost touch for a while....10 years is a while, right? She came over last night.  We sat out on the back porch, watching the drizzle,  reminiscing and getting to know each other again.  It was wonderful to see that time meant nothing as far as our friendship is concerned.  The days may have passed but it's like we were never separated.  It was fun to point out ourselves in our children too each other particularly when we didn't recognize it ourselves. And it's reassuring to realize that while time has changed us in our place in life, it hasn't changed our deep friendship that was formed so long ago....28 years ago definitely qualifies for a long time ago. The best part of last night was the laughter...that was brilliant! You know the belly aching, tears running down your face type of laughter caused by memories of how silly we were all those years ago when we thought we were so mature?  We got our first apartment together and shared so much.

We've vowed not to let each other slip away again and I know we both mean it. And guess what?!?!?! She knits! Sort of.  As she said, " I've knitted blankets, I just don't know how to finish them."  No problem! You came to the right place.

So please forgive me if I'm just a bit nostalgic. I feel change coming and I welcome the journey as long is it's okay to hold onto to a few things from the past.


  1. This is a really lovely post! I can relate to it hugely! My husband, newborn and I are living with my parents and younger sisters and it's great having everyone living together (specially for the baby) but sure takes some getting used to! As for friends, after moving back to the place where I grew up is a great chance to get to know some old friends again! Also your photos are just lovely!

  2. How wonderful to catch up with an old friend, and finding out she knits, how cool is that!

    I am sure it takes some getting used to, for everyone, when your boys come home. I hope everyone settles in soon.

  3. Since joining FB I have been reconnecting with so many past friends, it's a good thing and I love catching up with their worlds.
    I hear you loud and clear about down sizing your home, something I have thought of, but when the children do come home for a visit they now bring spouses and two grands [so far] and then I need MORE space.
    PS- Happy to see you here!

  4. I'm so glad to see you back in your 'space' here!!! (I've missed you!) Oh, that downsizing (and hardest) thing we ever did and have never had a minute's regret. You'll know when you're ready.
    Enjoy those boys home a blink they'll have permanently flown the nest.